You Deserve to Feel Safe in Your Own Life
There’s a quiet grief that comes with realizing nobody is coming to rescue you.
If you grew up in instability… if you were taught love was something you had to earn, if you learned to read every room before you even spoke… you know this grief well.
You know what it means to sit in a beautiful place and still feel unsafe.
You know how exhausting it is to carry the weight of your own belonging.
I know it too.
Not from a textbook. Not from a wellness trend.
From living it.
I grew up in a storm. Foster care. Adoption. Religious control disguised as love. Chronic illnesses that made my body feel like a battleground. And later, the disorienting tenderness of parenting two little souls while trying to heal my own.
Some days, peace felt so far away it might as well have been a different planet.
You are allowed to create a safe life, even if you’ve never known one before.
You are allowed to start small. To start scared. To start anyway.
That’s why I created Acadia Thorne.
Not because I have it all figured out, but because I believe in my bones that we deserve to feel safe. To feel worthy. To feel like home is a place we get to live, not just a place we survive.
And you don’t have to change everything overnight.
Sometimes it starts with the tiniest thing. A small ritual. A few moments you claim just for you.
A Small Ritual for Softness
(You can do this with a candle, a prism, a window, or even just your own breath.)
Find a spot in your home where light naturally lands…a window, a doorway, a corner.
Sit or stand there for a few breaths. No goal. No fixing.
Light a candle if you want. Hold a crystal if you have one. Or just place a hand over your heart.
Whisper out loud or silently something you needed to hear growing up.
(Examples: “You are safe now.” “You belong here.” “You don’t have to earn your rest.”)Let the light touch you. Let yourself be here. Just as you are.
This is yours. No permission needed.
Journal Prompts
What does "safe" feel like to me physically, emotionally, spiritually?
Where in my home do I feel most like myself? How can I spend more time there?
If I didn’t have to earn peace, what would I give myself today?
What small rituals could I create to honor the person I’m becoming?
You deserve softness.
You deserve beauty that doesn’t ask you to shrink or hustle or prove.
You deserve a home inside and outside where you can finally exhale.
And if nobody ever told you that before, let me be the one to say it:
You’re already worthy. You always were.
Thanks for being here. You belong.
— Kelly, Founder of Acadia Thorne
