You Deserve to Feel Safe in Your Own Life
Nobody’s coming to rescue us. That realization hits hard, even when you thought you already knew it.
If you grew up in chaos… if you learned to earn love by walking on eggshells… if you were the kid scanning every room before you even sat down… you know this feeling. You know what it’s like to sit somewhere beautiful and still feel unsafe. You know how heavy it is to carry your own belonging everywhere you go.
I know it too. Not because I read it in a book or saw it on Instagram. Because I lived it.
Foster care. Adoption. Religion dressed up as “love.” A body that never felt like home. Later, raising kids while trying to heal myself at the same time. Peace always felt like something that existed for other people.
You’re allowed to build safety, even if you’ve never had it before. You’re allowed to start small. Start scared. Start anyway.
That’s why I created Acadia Thorne. Not because I’ve figured it all out (p.s. I haven’t). But because I know in my bones that we deserve to stop surviving and actually live. We deserve to feel safe in our own skin, in our own homes.
And it doesn’t take a total life overhaul. Sometimes it starts with the smallest thing: a ritual, a shiny little thing in the window, a reminder that this space is yours.
A Small Ritual You Can Try
You don’t need supplies. If you’ve got a candle, a prism, or a window, great. If not, your breath is enough.
Find a spot where light lands.
Sit or stand there for a few breaths. No goal. No fixing. Just be.
If you want, light a candle. Hold something that feels grounding. Put a hand on your chest.
Say something you needed to hear growing up:
“You’re safe now.”
“You belong here.”
“You don’t have to earn your rest.”
That’s it. No incense. No chanting. Just you, claiming the moment.
Journal Prompts
What does “safe” actually feel like to me?
Where in my home do I feel most like myself?
If I didn’t have to earn peace, what would I give myself today?
What tiny rituals could I make to remind myself I belong here?
You deserve softness. You deserve beauty that doesn’t demand you shrink or prove yourself. You deserve a home where you can finally exhale.
And if nobody ever said this to you before, let me be the one:
You’re already worthy. You always were.
-Kelly, Founder of Acadia Thorne
